{"id":52442,"date":"2024-04-26T00:45:36","date_gmt":"2024-04-25T22:45:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.infokuryr.cz\/n\/?p=52442"},"modified":"2024-04-25T18:51:31","modified_gmt":"2024-04-25T16:51:31","slug":"daniela-kovarova-co-jsme-to-udelaly-muzum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.infokuryr.cz\/n\/2024\/04\/26\/daniela-kovarova-co-jsme-to-udelaly-muzum\/","title":{"rendered":"Daniela Kov\u00e1\u0159ov\u00e1: Co jsme to ud\u011blaly mu\u017e\u016fm?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Za m\u00e9ho ml\u00e1d\u00ed bylo jasn\u00e9, k\u00a0\u010demu jsou na sv\u011bt\u011b mu\u017ei, i\u00a0jak by m\u011bl vypadat ten mu\u017e ide\u00e1ln\u00ed. Aby p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161el t\u011b\u017ek\u00e1 b\u0159emena, chr\u00e1nil n\u00e1s p\u0159ed n\u00e1jezdn\u00edky, aby n\u00e1s zval na ve\u010de\u0159e a\u00a0pak za n\u00e1s ty ve\u010de\u0159e zaplatil, tou\u017eil po\u00a0rychl\u00fdch autech a\u00a0bojoval za n\u00e1s ve v\u00e1lk\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n

Holky se kv\u016fli kluk\u016fm fintily, malovaly a\u00a0v\u0161elijak nakrucovaly a\u00a0kluci holk\u00e1m \u0161ikovn\u011b nebo ne\u0161ikovn\u011b nadb\u00edhali. V\u011bd\u011bly jsme, \u017ee v\u0161echno do koketov\u00e1n\u00ed, sv\u00e1d\u011bn\u00ed a\u00a0rand\u011bn\u00ed sm\u011b\u0159uje k\u00a0tomu, abychom si na\u0161ly man\u017eela a\u00a0m\u011bly s\u00a0n\u00edm d\u011bti a\u00a0v\u0161ichni spole\u010dn\u011b, mu\u017ei se \u017eenami, jsme budovali rodiny, za\u0159izovali byty, stav\u011bli domy, vychov\u00e1vali d\u011bti, okop\u00e1vali zahr\u00e1dky a\u00a0kultivovali chaty, pracovali, jezdili na ly\u017ee \u010di\u00a0na dovolenou a\u00a0vz\u00e1jemn\u011b si pom\u00e1hali p\u0159i\u00a0pr\u00e1ci, v\u00a0radosti, v\u00a0nemoci i\u00a0ve st\u00e1\u0159\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Cel\u00e9 generace p\u0159ed n\u00e1mi to tak d\u011blaly, o\u00a0\u010dem\u017e sv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed kroniky, rom\u00e1ny, b\u00e1sn\u011b, obrazy, skladby, filmy, poh\u00e1dky i\u00a0lidov\u00e1 slovesnost. V\u00a0lidsk\u00fdch d\u011bjin\u00e1ch se \u010das od \u010dasu vyskytovaly i\u00a0krutosti, kter\u00e9 si lid\u00e9 navz\u00e1jem prov\u00e1d\u011bli jednotliv\u011b, ale i\u00a0skupinov\u011b, horda proti hord\u011b, n\u00e1rod proti n\u00e1rodu. V\u0161echny vztahy nebyly idylick\u00e9 a\u00a0\u017eeny ob\u010das b\u00fdvaly ob\u011b\u0165mi, ale i\u00a0pachatelkami hr\u016fzn\u00fdch \u010din\u016f (nap\u0159\u00edklad slavn\u00e9 travi\u010dky \u010di\u00a0\u010desk\u00e9 vra\u017eedkyn\u011b Olga Hepnarov\u00e1 a\u00a0Dana Stodolov\u00e1). \u017deny to maj\u00ed v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b slo\u017eit\u00e9 a\u00a0t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9, ale mnohem krut\u011bj\u0161\u00ed byl v\u017edycky \u017eivot k\u00a0mu\u017e\u016fm. Pr\u00e1v\u011b oni p\u0159ece \u010dast\u011bji um\u00edrali ve v\u00e1lk\u00e1ch, v\u00a0poty\u010dk\u00e1ch, v\u00a0pouli\u010dn\u00edm n\u00e1sil\u00ed, kdysi a\u00a0nakonec i\u00a0dnes \u2013 80\u00a0% ob\u011bt\u00ed v\u0161ech vra\u017ed jsou mu\u017ei (viz\u00a0zde<\/strong><\/a>), jsou n\u00e1sobn\u011b v\u00edc zastoupeni mezi narkomany, bezdomovci, v\u011bzni i\u00a0sebevrahy.<\/p>\n

Ale zp\u011bt ke vztah\u016fm mezi mu\u017ei a\u00a0\u017eenami. Cosi se toti\u017e od m\u00e9ho ml\u00e1d\u00ed zm\u011bnilo a\u00a0zp\u016fsobil to feminismus a\u00a0my samy \u017eeny. Holky se na kluky d\u00edvaj\u00ed dnes jinak: ne\u010dekaj\u00ed, \u017ee je mu\u017ei budou br\u00e1nit, ale samy usiluj\u00ed o\u00a0dr\u017een\u00ed zbran\u011b a\u00a0o\u00a0velen\u00ed arm\u00e1d\u00e1m. Nepot\u0159ebuj\u00ed nosi\u010de t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdch b\u0159emen \u2013 jsou py\u0161n\u00e9 na sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed svaly a\u00a0pomoc naopak odm\u00edtaj\u00ed. Netou\u017e\u00ed b\u00fdt sv\u00e1d\u011bny a\u00a0zv\u00e1ny na ve\u010de\u0159i; naopak ubl\u00ed\u017een\u011b reaguj\u00ed, kdy\u017e se hoch chyst\u00e1 za spole\u010dnou ve\u010de\u0159i zaplatit. Jsou hrd\u00e9 na svou samostatnost a\u00a0hlasit\u011b zv\u011bstuj\u00ed, \u017ee k\u00a0\u017eivotu \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 mu\u017ee nepot\u0159ebuj\u00ed. V\u017edy\u0165 i\u00a0d\u00edt\u011b si dok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed opat\u0159it jinak \u2013 po\u00a0\u010dty\u0159ic\u00edtce asistovanou reprodukc\u00ed. Sv\u011bt dnes prost\u011b pat\u0159\u00ed \u017een\u00e1m, ony jej \u0159\u00edd\u00ed, ovliv\u0148uj\u00ed, umrav\u0148uj\u00ed a\u00a0komanduj\u00ed. U\u017e d\u00e1vno nejde o\u00a0spolupr\u00e1ci, o\u00a0pot\u0159ebu obou pohlav\u00ed, o\u00a0touhu po\u00a0spojen\u00ed, proto\u017ee teprve ve spojen\u00ed je dokonalost. Pr\u00e1v\u011b naopak: dnes je modern\u00ed boj proti pohlav\u00edmi a\u00a0mezi nimi. A\u00a0mu\u017ei jsou t\u00edm, kdo jsou na pran\u00fd\u0159i. Mu\u017ei, jejich mu\u017estv\u00ed, jejich p\u0159irozenosti.<\/p>\n

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Oni jsou pr\u00fd ti, co n\u00e1s zn\u00e1sil\u0148uj\u00ed, omezuj\u00ed, tyj\u00ed z\u00a0na\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1ce, zneu\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed na\u0161\u00ed dobroty, t\u00fdraj\u00ed n\u00e1s a\u00a0v\u0161elijak n\u00e1m ubli\u017euj\u00ed, odstrkuj\u00ed n\u00e1s do dom\u00e1cnosti a\u00a0k\u00a0d\u011btem a\u00a0k\u00a0tomu nejzaj\u00edmav\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu n\u00e1s pr\u00fd nepust\u00ed. A\u00a0tak ty nov\u00e9 mlad\u00e9 modern\u00ed a\u00a0pokrokov\u00e9 \u017eeny kvokaj\u00ed o\u00a0kv\u00f3t\u00e1ch, trvaj\u00ed na pozitivn\u00ed diskriminaci, na \u00falev\u00e1ch m\u00edsto na rovnosti, na pr\u00e1vu na potrat, na v\u00fdhod\u00e1ch, na ohledech, na omluv\u00e1ch a\u00a0na p\u0159ednosti. Co kdysi bez probl\u00e9m\u016f zajistila mor\u00e1lka, etika, slu\u0161nost a\u00a0dobr\u00e9 vychov\u00e1n\u00ed, to dnes cht\u011bj\u00ed zan\u00e9st do z\u00e1kon\u016f a\u00a0mu\u017ee tou\u017e\u00ed p\u0159evychovat. My m\u00e1me sv\u00e1 pr\u00e1va a\u00a0vy jen poslouchejte.<\/p>\n

Jak\u00fd je v\u00fdsledek? Mu\u017ei se mus\u00ed krotit, ovl\u00e1dat sv\u00e9 pudy a\u00a0p\u0159irozenosti, mus\u00ed k\u00a0porod\u016fm a\u00a0pe\u010dovat o\u00a0d\u011bti, mus\u00ed poslouchat a\u00a0respektovat, \u017ee nesou vinu v\u0161ech p\u0159edchoz\u00edch mu\u017e\u016f na omto sv\u011bt\u011b, za vra\u017edy \u017een, za zn\u00e1sil\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed, za moc, za \u0161patn\u00fd pohled, dotyk, vtip, za ironii. Mu\u017ei to prost\u011b v\u00a0minulosti pokazili, a\u00a0tak je t\u0159eba te\u010f kladivo spravedlnosti p\u0159ev\u00e1\u017eit na\u00a0druhou stranu. A\u00a0tak to \u017eeny pevn\u011b vzaly do ruky a\u00a0n\u011bjakou dobu se te\u010f mu\u017e\u016fm budou mst\u00edt za v\u0161echna p\u0159\u00edko\u0159\u00ed skute\u010dn\u00e1 i\u00a0uva\u017eovan\u00e1, kter\u00fdch se jejich p\u0159edkov\u00e9 na chudink\u00e1ch \u017een\u00e1ch dopou\u0161t\u011bli. Co na tom, \u017ee za to dne\u0161n\u00ed mu\u017ei nemohou? Co na tom, \u017ee v\u011bt\u0161ina \u010desk\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti je u\u017e tak dalece feminizovan\u00e1, \u017ee si kluk nedovol\u00ed ani mladou holku pozvat na\u00a0drink \u010di\u00a0ji oslovit na ulici, v\u00a0tramvaji \u010di\u00a0na lavi\u010dce, co\u017e bylo v\u00a0dob\u011b m\u00e9ho ml\u00e1d\u00ed docela obvykl\u00e9, mil\u00e9 a\u00a0vzru\u0161uj\u00edc\u00ed.<\/p>\n

A tak dnes mu\u017ei netou\u017e\u00ed po\u00a0rychl\u00fdch kolech a\u00a0bitk\u00e1ch v\u00a0ringu, a\u00a0m\u00edsto aby koukali po\u00a0holk\u00e1ch, rad\u0161i si doma pust\u00ed porno. Nemaj\u00ed sex (viz nap\u0159\u00edklad\u00a0zde<\/a>) a\u00a0ani po\u00a0n\u011bm netou\u017e\u00ed (viz nap\u0159\u00edklad\u00a0zde<\/a>). Vlastn\u011b se tomu ani nediv\u00edm. Mlad\u00ed chlapci se toti\u017e \u017een boj\u00ed. Tolik \u010dtou o\u00a0\u017eensk\u00fdch pr\u00e1vech, o\u00a0zn\u00e1siln\u011bn\u00ed, o\u00a0MeToo, o\u00a0tom, co nesm\u011bj\u00ed, jak se maj\u00ed ovl\u00e1dat, \u010di\u00a0jak\u00e9\u00a0trauma \u017een\u011b mohou zp\u016fsobit. Zranit ty dne\u0161n\u00ed mlad\u00e9 siln\u00e9 bojovnice a\u00a0gener\u00e1lky lze toti\u017e kupodivu i\u00a0pohledem, slovem, gestem, \u00fasm\u011bvem. V\u0161e, co d\u0159\u00edv bylo b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 a\u00a0norm\u00e1ln\u00ed, lze dnes pova\u017eovat za zra\u0148uj\u00edc\u00ed, tud\u00ed\u017e nep\u0159ijateln\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Kdysi byla \u017eena spojov\u00e1na s\u00a0laskavost\u00ed, s\u00a0n\u011b\u017enost\u00ed, s\u00a0p\u00e9\u010d\u00ed a\u00a0starostlivost\u00ed. Ty kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 atributy \u017eenstv\u00ed jsou ale dne\u0161n\u00edm feministk\u00e1m m\u00e1lo. Po\u017eaduj\u00ed p\u0159ednost, pr\u00e1vo na vlastn\u00ed n\u00e1zor bez ohledu na city ostatn\u00edch, pr\u00e1vo na sobeck\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed, \u201eproto\u017ee p\u0159ece chci. A\u00a0co nechci, co se mi nel\u00edb\u00ed, to d\u011blat nemus\u00edm.\u201c<\/p>\n

Je mi v\u00e1s l\u00edto, mil\u00e9 mlad\u00e9 agresivn\u00ed \u017eeny. Pro koho se vlastn\u011b dnes malujete, fint\u00edte a\u00a0p\u0159edv\u00e1d\u00edte? Kv\u016fli komu nakupujete v\u00edc kosmetiky (viz\u00a0zde<\/a>)? Emancipace osvobodila \u017eeny, ale zm\u011bnila i\u00a0mu\u017ee. Po\u0159\u00e1dn\u00ed chlapi zmizeli, nikdo je nepot\u0159ebuje. Co dnes \u017een\u00e1m zbylo? Kamar\u00e1d? Pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00fd? Poslu\u0161n\u00fd otrok? Zm\u011bk\u010dil\u00fd citlivka?<\/p>\n

Tak\u017ee dnes m\u00e1te, co jste cht\u011bly?<\/p>\n

Autorka\u00a0Daniela Kov\u00e1\u0159ov\u00e1<\/strong>\u00a0je nez\u00e1vislou sen\u00e1torkou a\u00a0prezidentkou Unie rodinn\u00fdch advok\u00e1t\u016f<\/em><\/p>\n

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